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Speak First: A Simple Yet Powerful Leadership Hack

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tl:dr;
Striving to speak first in professional settings when you're in charge isn’t just about confidence; it’s a strategic routine behaviour that subtly shapes conversations and dynamics, setting the tone and direction for others to follow.

Why you should speak first — a simple yet power­ful hack

Leadership isn’t always about mak­ing grand decisions or monu­ment­al ges­tures. Sometimes, the most impact­ful lead­er­ship strategies are minor beha­vi­our­al adjust­ments that can change the dynam­ics of an entire team. 

Here we go:

The Hack: Speak First

This is a power­ful yet decept­ively simple hack for com­mu­nic­at­ive leadership: 

Key takeaway: To assert lead­er­ship, speak first dur­ing form­al and inform­al occa­sions with your team.

Why does this mat­ter? It taps into a deeply rooted psy­cho­lo­gic­al pat­tern. In any group set­ting, we instinct­ively look towards those who take ini­ti­at­ive. This dynam­ic is observed con­sist­ently in social psychology

By speak­ing first, lead­ers sig­nal con­fid­ence and dir­ec­tion. This isn’t about mono­pol­ising the con­ver­sa­tion or wield­ing con­trol — it’s about set­ting a tone, provid­ing clar­ity, and build­ing an envir­on­ment where oth­ers feel groun­ded and ready to contribute.

Psychological research sup­ports this concept. According to Van Vugt et al. (2008), people nat­ur­ally look towards those who ini­ti­ate action as lead­ers, espe­cially in uncer­tain situ­ations. This phe­nomen­on, called “lead­er emer­gence”, sug­gests that the mere act of tak­ing the first step — wheth­er in speech or action — can cement a person’s pos­i­tion as a lead­er in the minds of oth­ers. 1Van Vugt, M., Hogan, R., & Kaiser, R. B. (2008). Leadership, fol­low­er­ship, and evol­u­tion: Some les­sons from the past. American Psychologist, 63(3), 182 – 196. … Continue read­ing

Similarly, a study by Anderson and Kilduff (2009) found that indi­vidu­als who act con­fid­ently and make the first move tend to be per­ceived as more com­pet­ent, regard­less of wheth­er their actu­al abil­it­ies match this per­cep­tion. 2Anderson, C., & Kilduff, G. J. (2009). Why do dom­in­ant per­son­al­it­ies attain influ­ence in face-to-face groups? The com­pet­ence-sig­nal­ing effects of trait dom­in­ance. Journal of Personality and … Continue read­ing

Setting the Stage

The key to suc­cess is bal­ance. Speaking first is not about dom­in­at­ing the con­ver­sa­tion or dis­reg­ard­ing oth­ers’ per­spect­ives. It’s often about effect­ively fram­ing the discussion. 

For example, by open­ing a meet­ing with a brief intro­duc­tion, you cre­ate a con­text for the fol­low­ing dis­cus­sion, allow­ing oth­ers to con­trib­ute mean­ing­fully. In inform­al dis­cus­sions, being the first to express sup­port for an idea can make the envir­on­ment safer for oth­ers to share their thoughts.

Think of it as estab­lish­ing the ground upon which oth­ers can con­fid­ently walk. It might mean intro­du­cing a top­ic with a per­son­al anec­dote that makes it relat­able, or it could be some­thing as simple as express­ing excite­ment about hear­ing from a par­tic­u­lar team mem­ber work­ing on a great project. 

Key takeaway: The lead­er­’s pur­pose in speak­ing first is to pave the way, mod­el engage­ment, and help frame con­tri­bu­tions that allow team mem­bers to shine.

By striv­ing to speak first, you take on the often under­stated yet power­ful role of a lead­er who provides the ini­tial cues that shape a pro­duct­ive, col­lab­or­at­ive atmo­sphere. It’s about giv­ing dir­ec­tion without over­shad­ow­ing, build­ing momentum without tak­ing over, and ulti­mately, encour­aging oth­ers to fol­low with their contributions.

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ANNOTATIONS
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1 Van Vugt, M., Hogan, R., & Kaiser, R. B. (2008). Leadership, fol­low­er­ship, and evol­u­tion: Some les­sons from the past. American Psychologist, 63(3), 182 – 196. https://​doi​.org/​1​0​.​1​0​3​7​/​0​003 – 066X.63.3.182
2 Anderson, C., & Kilduff, G. J. (2009). Why do dom­in­ant per­son­al­it­ies attain influ­ence in face-to-face groups? The com­pet­ence-sig­nal­ing effects of trait dom­in­ance. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 96(2), 491 – 503. https://​doi​.org/​1​0​.​1​0​3​7​/​a​0​0​1​4​201
Jerry Silfwer
Jerry Silfwerhttps://doctorspin.net/
Jerry Silfwer, alias Doctor Spin, is an awarded senior adviser specialising in public relations and digital strategy. Currently CEO at Spin Factory and KIX Communication Index. Before that, he worked at Kaufmann, Whispr Group, Springtime PR, and Spotlight PR. Based in Stockholm, Sweden.

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