Are we starting to mimic social media influencers?
I’m a digital PR expert, but I’m also a regular social media user. I follow friends, family, and acquaintances on my social media accounts. And something seems to be … off.
In this blog post, I’ll discuss a form of online wannabeism; how regular people in your feeds are suddenly starting to talk and act like influencers — despite having no real audiences to address.
Here we go:
Online Wannebeism
“In the digital space, attention is a currency.”
— Brian Solis
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Online Wannabeism
The widespread behaviour where non-influencers mimic influencer mannerisms is fascinating — and somewhat sad. 1“Our results confirm that the five aspects of influencing posts affect consumers’ attitudes positively and significantly, which in turn leads to positive behavioural outcomes through their desire … Continue reading
Online Wannabeism = when a regular social media user mimics influencer mannerisms while creating content; a form of aspirational roleplay in front of an imagined audience.
We might not all be influencers, but that doesn’t stop us from mimicking their behaviours when we create and publish content.
“The main-test results, using the Structural Equation Modeling (SEM) analysis via AMOS 23, confirmed that the conceptual model and all the hypothesised relationships were statistically significant. Further, the bootstrap results demonstrated that a target’s mimicry desire indeed served as a significant mediator linking the target’s attitudinal beliefs to behavioural decisions.”
Source: University of Tennessee 2Ki, C. (2018, March). The Drivers and Impacts of Social Media Influencers: The Role of Mimicry. University of Tennessee. https://core.ac.uk/download/pdf/268799921.pdf
Where does this online wannabeism stem from?
The Social Mirror Theory (SMT) states that “[…] people are incapable of self-reflection without considering a peer’s interpretation of the experience. In other words, people define and resolve their internal musings through other’s viewpoint.” 3Social mirror theory. (2023, July 21). In Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_mirror_theory
SMT is a psychological concept that suggests that people learn to see themselves and their identities through how others react to them. The theory suggests that people use the reactions of others as a “mirror” to understand and form their sense of self.
Social Media Loneliness
Online influencers are typically successful by being consistently unique, evolving, and entertaining. While massive online fame is taxing for most influencers, they keep going to stay relevant.
Still, an influencer cannot sustain that many simultaneous two-way relationships. So, these relationships are one-sided in nature.
Put in other words:
I feel for us. Having advised hundreds of brands, I know that the most common challenge isn’t bad PR… it’s no PR.
“Take a selfie, fake a life.” 4Silfwer, J. (2019, March 2). The Selfie Generation: An Epidemic of Online Narcissism. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/selfie-generation/
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The Anatomy of Attention
“There’s only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.”
— Oscar Wilde
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The Anatomy of Attention
Attention is an essential component of public relations:
And it’s not just organisations. We all seem to crave attention in some form or another:
“People want to be loved; failing that admired; failing that feared; failing that hated and despised. They want to evoke some sort of sentiment. The soul shudders before oblivion and seeks connection at any price.”
— Hjalmar Söderberg (1869−1941), Swedish author
It’s fear of social isolation— and attention starvation.
But what constitutes ‘attention’?
“Attention is a complex, real neural architecture (‘RNA’) model that integrates various cognitive models and brain centers to perform tasks like visual search.”
Source: Trends in cognitive sciences 5Shipp, S. (2004). The brain circuitry of attention. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 8, 223 – 230. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2004.03.004
Each of the below terms refers to a specific aspect or type of attention (“mental bandwidth”), a complex cognitive process. 6Schweizer, K., Moosbrugger, H., & Goldhammer, F. (2005). The structure of the relationship between attention and intelligence. Intelligence, 33(6), 589 – 611. … Continue reading
Let’s explore different types of attention:
Each type of attention plays a crucial role in how we interact with and process information from our environment, and understanding these different aspects is key in fields like psychology, neuroscience, and education.
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Dunbar’s Number
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150 — Dunbar’s Number
Robin Dunbar, a British anthropologist and evolutionary psychologist, proposed what’s known as “Dunbar’s Number” — a theory suggesting that humans can only comfortably maintain about 150 stable relationships. 7Dunbar, R. I. M. (1998). The social brain hypothesis. Evolutionary Anthropology: Issues, News, and Reviews, 6(5), 178 – 190.
This includes family, friends, colleagues, and others with whom a person can keep meaningful contact. Beyond this number, the quality of relationships can diminish due to the limitations in our mental bandwidth. 8Silfwer, J. (2012, April 14). Social Group Sizes (The Social Brain Hypothesis). Doctor Spin | the PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/group-sizes/
“Dunbar’s number is a suggested cognitive limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships. […] No precise value has been proposed for Dunbar’s number. It has been proposed to lie between 100 and 230, with a commonly used value of 150. Dunbar’s number states the number of people one knows and keeps social contact with, and it does not include the number of people known personally with a ceased social relationship, nor people just generally known with a lack of persistent social relationship, a number which might be much higher and likely depends on long-term memory size.”
Source: Wikipedia 9Dunbar’s number. (2023, May 29). In Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number
According to Dunbar, this limit is a direct function of relative neocortex size, which constrains our ability to keep track of complex social relationships. 10It’s worth noting that the concept of Dunbar’s Number has been debated and scrutinised within the scientific community.
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Typical Social Group Sizes
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Typical Social Group Sizes
How many social connections you you comfortably sustain? According to the social brain hypothesis, limits exist. 11Zhou WX, Sornette D, Hill RA, Dunbar RI. Discrete hierarchical organization of social group sizes. Proc Biol Sci. 2005 Feb 22;272(1561):439 – 44.
“The ‘social brain hypothesis’ for the evolution of large brains in primates has led to evidence for the coevolution of neocortical size and social group sizes, suggesting that there is a cognitive constraint on group size that depends, in some way, on the volume of neural material available for processing and synthesizing information on social relationships.”
Source: Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences 12Zhou, X., Sornette, D., Hill, R. A., & M. Dunbar, R. I. (2005). Discrete hierarchical organization of social group sizes. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 272(1561), … Continue reading
Scientific evidence suggests that people tend to organise themselves not in an even distribution of group sizes but in discrete hierarchical social groups of more particular sizes:
Alas, there seems to be a discrete statistical order in the complex chaos of human relationships:
“Such discrete scale invariance could be related to that identified in signatures of herding behaviour in financial markets and might reflect a hierarchical processing of social nearness by human brains.“
Source: Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences 13Zhou, X., Sornette, D., Hill, R. A., & M. Dunbar, R. I. (2005). Discrete hierarchical organization of social group sizes. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 272(1561), … Continue reading
Read also: Group Sizes (The Social Brain Hypothesis)
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The Selfie Generation
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The Selfie Generation
I turned 30 in 2009 and spent the following decade experiencing a social media universe dominated by teens and 20-somethings. Sure, new trends are exciting, but still.
I’ve loathed seeing otherwise mature, intelligent, middle-aged friends do duckface selfies in front of their bathroom mirrors — or weirdly flexing about their latest triathlon training session. 14Silfwer, J. (2021, August 10). Online Wannabeism: Why We Mimic Social Media Influencers. Doctor Spin | the PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/online-wannabeism/
“Being young today is no longer a transitory stage, but rather a life choice, well established and brutally promoted by the media system. While the classic paradigms of adulthood and maturation could interpret such infantile behavior as a symptom of deviance, such behavior has become a model to follow, an ideal of fun and being carefree, present in a wide variety of contexts of society. The contemporary adult follows a sort of thoughtful immaturity, a conscious escape from the responsibilities of an anachronistic model of life. If an ideal of maturity remains, it does not find behavioral compensations in a society where childish attitudes and adolescent life models are constantly promoted by the media and tolerated by institutions.”
Source: ResearchGate 15Bernardini, J. (2014, June 30). The Infantilization of the Postmodern Adult and the Figure of Kidult. ResearchGate. … Continue reading
Some take the route of being omnipotent multi-experts who are fiercely opinionated about everything. Others try to save the world by organising themselves around the central task of shaming others publicly. Some try too hard to impress others by self-promoting their personal life choices. 16Silfwer, J. (2022, September 6). Social Media — The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/social-media/
Others opt out. Some of us censor ourselves in fear of social isolation, opinion corridors, and mighty echo chambers. 17Silfwer, J. (2023, December 15). Echo Chambers: Algorithmic Confirmation Bias. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/echo-chambers/ 18Silfwer, J. (2020, June 4). The Spiral of Silence. Doctor Spin | the PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/spiral-of-silence/
“A status update with no likes (or a clever tweet without retweets) becomes the equivalent of a joke met with silence. It must be rethought and rewritten. And so we don’t show our true selves online, but a mask designed to conform to the opinions of those around us.”
— Neil Strauss, Wall Street Journal
We resort to clickbait, humble bragging, and virtue signalling in our desperate search for likes. 19Silfwer, J. (2023, November 22). The Anatomy of Attention. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/attention/
We’re a generation of adults who don’t know what it means to be grownups on social media.
“To me, it’s just one symptom of a broader trend of infantilisation in Western culture. It began before the advent of smartphones and social media. But, as I argue in my book “The Terminal Self,” our everyday interactions with these computer technologies have accelerated and normalised our culture’s infantile tendencies.”
— Simon Gottschalk, professor of Sociology at the University of Nevada
But it’s never too late to be a grownup in social media:
Learn more: The Selfie Generation: An Epidemic of Online Narcissism
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Emotional Maturity in Social Media
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Emotional Maturity and Social Media
How do we better understand the emotional maturity of the Selfie Generation? In The Secret of Maturity by Kevin Everett FitzMaurice, a maturity progression of six steps is outlined:
Level 1: Emotional Responsibility
Social media immaturity: When people get easily offended, especially on behalf of others.
Level 1 maturity means that you understand that your feelings are your choices. People who haven’t yet reached this level of maturity tend to blame their feelings on external stimuli, such as other people, places, things, forces, fate, and spirits.
Level 2: Emotional Honesty
Social media immaturity: When people publicly paint themselves as victims of their feelings.
Level 2 maturity means you understand your feelings and have the coping mechanisms to allow for genuine emotions instead of suppressing them. People who haven’t yet reached this level of maturity tend to hurt themselves emotionally because they haven’t yet learned how to cope with their inner emotions.
Level 3: Emotional Openness
Social media immaturity: When people publicly overshare to wallow or are unaware that their sharing has the opposite effect than they were aiming for.
Level 3 maturity means that you can be purposeful in venting your emotions with the intent to let them go because you’re done with them. People who haven’t yet reached this level of maturity tend to be insecure in knowing how and when to share their feelings.
Level 4: Emotional Assertiveness
Social media immaturity: When people allow others to make them feel bad but cannot set whatever boundaries they need.
Level 4 maturity means that you take responsibility for clearly communicating your emotional needs with those who care about you. People who haven’t yet reached this maturity level tend to fear asking others to respect their emotional needs.
Level 5: Emotional Understanding
Social media immaturity: When people try too hard to virtue signal and project a false self-image, which only makes them feel worse.
Level 5 maturity means you no longer force yourself into imaginary or convenient ideas about who you are and what you should feel. People who haven’t yet reached this level of maturity tend to have certain firm beliefs about themselves that stem from ideas or principles, not genuine emotions.
Level 6: Emotional Detachment
Social media immaturity: When people can’t truly appreciate living in a world where people make each other feel good and bad about things.
Level 6 maturity means you are detached from your ego, and nothing can no longer bother you beyond your control. People who haven’t yet reached this level of maturity tend to have certain self-concepts to defend or promote.
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PR Resource: Social Media PR Issues
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List of Social Media Issues
Social media isn’t just sunshine and rainbows. With massive change come new social media issues we must deal with.
Here are a few examples of social media issues:
Read also: Social Media: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
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ANNOTATIONS
1 | “Our results confirm that the five aspects of influencing posts affect consumers’ attitudes positively and significantly, which in turn leads to positive behavioural outcomes through their desire to mimic SMIs [Social Media Influencers].” Source: The mechanism by which social media influencers persuade consumers: The role of consumers’ desire to mimic. |
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2 | Ki, C. (2018, March). The Drivers and Impacts of Social Media Influencers: The Role of Mimicry. University of Tennessee. https://core.ac.uk/download/pdf/268799921.pdf |
3 | Social mirror theory. (2023, July 21). In Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_mirror_theory |
4 | Silfwer, J. (2019, March 2). The Selfie Generation: An Epidemic of Online Narcissism. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/selfie-generation/ |
5 | Shipp, S. (2004). The brain circuitry of attention. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 8, 223 – 230. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2004.03.004 |
6 | Schweizer, K., Moosbrugger, H., & Goldhammer, F. (2005). The structure of the relationship between attention and intelligence. Intelligence, 33(6), 589 – 611. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.intell.2005.07.001 |
7 | Dunbar, R. I. M. (1998). The social brain hypothesis. Evolutionary Anthropology: Issues, News, and Reviews, 6(5), 178 – 190. |
8 | Silfwer, J. (2012, April 14). Social Group Sizes (The Social Brain Hypothesis). Doctor Spin | the PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/group-sizes/ |
9 | Dunbar’s number. (2023, May 29). In Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number |
10 | It’s worth noting that the concept of Dunbar’s Number has been debated and scrutinised within the scientific community. |
11 | Zhou WX, Sornette D, Hill RA, Dunbar RI. Discrete hierarchical organization of social group sizes. Proc Biol Sci. 2005 Feb 22;272(1561):439 – 44. |
12, 13 | Zhou, X., Sornette, D., Hill, R. A., & M. Dunbar, R. I. (2005). Discrete hierarchical organization of social group sizes. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 272(1561), 439 – 444. https://doi.org/10.1098/rspb.2004.2970 |
14 | Silfwer, J. (2021, August 10). Online Wannabeism: Why We Mimic Social Media Influencers. Doctor Spin | the PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/online-wannabeism/ |
15 | Bernardini, J. (2014, June 30). The Infantilization of the Postmodern Adult and the Figure of Kidult. ResearchGate. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/291222595_The_Infantilization_of_the_Postmodern_Adult_and_the_Figure_of_Kidult |
16 | Silfwer, J. (2022, September 6). Social Media — The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/social-media/ |
17 | Silfwer, J. (2023, December 15). Echo Chambers: Algorithmic Confirmation Bias. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/echo-chambers/ |
18 | Silfwer, J. (2020, June 4). The Spiral of Silence. Doctor Spin | the PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/spiral-of-silence/ |
19 | Silfwer, J. (2023, November 22). The Anatomy of Attention. Doctor Spin | The PR Blog. https://doctorspin.net/attention/ |