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What Remains of the Xennial Generation?

Check your ego and come lounge with us. We have sofas and tea.

Most of the Xennials’ subculture has vanished—but not all of it.

The micro-generation born between 1977 and 1983 has been labelled The Oregon Trail generation, named after the seminal video game. Other names include The Xennials, The Carter Babies, Generation Y, and Generation Catalano. We grew up with one foot in the analogue world and the other in the digital.

The Xennials have been described as “the last generation that remembers and lived a life before the Internet.”

Xennials - Commodore 64
Press play on tape.

I was born in 1979 in Sweden. In 1987, at 7-8 years old, I saved up and bought a computer, the now-legendary Commodore 64. Growing up meant playing not only C64 but also Atari, Amiga, Sega, and Nintendo with friends.

And yes, I did play Oregon Trail and many other games just like it.

Xennials - The Oregon Trail
The obstacle is the way.

As 90s teenagers, we grew up watching My So-Called Life, Beverly Hills 90210, Melrose Place, and later also Friends. We listened to Nirvana, Guns N’ Roses — and that particular brand of artsy but upbeat pop that the 90s had to offer. We were socially conscious but not rebellious. We suffered normal levels of teenage angst and we were all identity-seekers with no common goal to unite around.

But all of that is in the past. And we have since moved on.

Today, we find ourselves amidst a hyperbolic culture war, where both extremes gravitate towards oddities like identity politics, semi-organised online bullying, and cancel culture. I cannot come to terms with either side of this war—or with any point along the diagonal between them.

For me, it begs the question, “What’s my culture—and where did it go?”

Xennials - My So Called Life
Great actors.

Here’s my hypothesis: I think we, as a generational cohort, are having a hard time navigating the moral landscape simply because we can’t come to terms with today’s zeitgeist. We want to—but it eludes us.

When exactly, we ask ourselves while scratching our Xennial heads in bewilderment, did the villains become the heroes?

To us, it’s simple: We know we’re not special. In Tyler Durden’s words, “You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fucking khakis. You’re the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.”

We all have personal struggles, but no one gets a free douchebag pass. Sure, Xander had a rough go growing up, and he also wasn’t chosen to be a vampire-killer like Buffy or bestowed with magical powers like Willow, but nevertheless: he opted to be a good friend.

People will sometimes disagree and fight, but bullish and selfish behaviour is merely a symptom of personal trauma. If today’s political climate were an episode of My So-Called Life or Beverly Hills 90210, both sides would eventually have to deal with their emotional baggage.

Xennials - Beverly Hills 90210
No shortage of drama.

Some conversations are uncomfortable, but that means that they must be had. And then we need to move the fuck on. Hate will only fester and transform its bearers into those dark creatures of the Upside Down-world in Stranger Things.

Still, I don’t think our sense of being out-of-sync has anything to do with the current state of public affairs. As a small and unassuming generation in-between Generation X and the Millennials, I guess we somehow forgot to protect our values.

Honesty. Vulnerability. Tolerance. Acceptance. Support.

Instead, the Xennials have been conditioned to bridge back and forth between two large cohorts. Like a generational middle child, we’ve made our beds as we go—losing much of our cultural identity in the process.

Generation X tend to promote self-righteousness and cynicism, while Millennials tend to gravitate towards emotional safety and entitlement. So, when Generation X accuses Millennials of being entitled and uncool, we chime in. And we chime in when Millennials accuse Generation X of fucking up the planet and being laggards.

If we, a quiet micro-generation, have preserved any distinctions or hallmarks, then what are they?
Do we even have any cultural features left?

While most of what used to be our culture has vanished, I think that one particular characteristic remains: we still frown upon a special blend of douchebaggery, a sort of righteous megalomania that seems especially prominent in today’s culture.

When meeting people who make a habit of bringing attention to their heritage, status, careers, achievements, hardships, special interests, persuasions, or talents, I just can’t imagine them as potential friends. Like, Ross, spare us that lecture on palaeontology, please.

Your qualities as a person are defined not by how you self-identify, but by your character towards others. Anyone is welcome to stop by and hang out; just don’t put on airs.

Case in point: My wife was born in 1982, and we share these micro-cultural preferences. Whenever we have a couple of hours to spare, we hang out. It’s like an episode of Friends where our living room is our Central Perk. I could never see myself living with someone that doesn’t put being a good friend first.

Xennials - Friends - Central Perk
This is what I want my living room to feel like.

I think that the Xennial generation still shares this deeply rooted anti-douchebaggery preference. If you want to play rich on Instagram or brag about your hipster hobbies, then I’m sorry: you’re an asshole.

Ultimately, at least to us, your character is a choice.
And—it’s the only choice that truly matters.

If nothing else, moral character choices were the central theme of our whole pop-cultural upbringing; it’s that mandatory socially-conscious episode of every weekly television drama or sitcom for an entire teenage decade. When all is said and done, we just want to hang out, be nice, and play video games with friends.

Do you want to be a social justice warrior to show the world just how pure and good you are? Do you want to wield the conservative axe in the fight against liberal snowflakes? Do you think that your emotional baggage makes you more special than others? Maybe you have many social media followers; perhaps your car is nice?

That’s fine; you do you. But if you want to get in with us, don’t forget what it means to be a friend. Check your ego bullshit at the door, and come lounge with us. We have sofas and tea.

Cover photo by Jerry Silfwer (Prints/Instagram)


Jerry Silfwer
Jerry Silfwer
Jerry Silfwer, aka Doctor Spin, is an awarded senior adviser specialising in public relations and digital strategy. Currently CEO at KIX Index and Spin Factory. Before that, he worked at Kaufmann, Whispr Group, Springtime PR, and Spotlight PR. Based in Stockholm, Sweden.
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